2 days ago  0 comments

Better

On my bitchy fertility meds, which make me wonder do I really want another kid this bad? Mullet Man (my huz) is grumpy and I am due to drop an egg like tomorrow. I hate him right now. Why does having kids have to be connected with sex?

Ok so we finally got some us time and its not so bad :)))

11 days ago  0 comments

Get Your Geek On with Digital Scrapbooking/ Scrapblog

How to print it for about 10 bucks

I love myscrapblogs! Its so easy and now I can throw out the .dtf (dead tree format) crap I have in my closet.

 one of my first pages on made on scrapblog.com

11 days ago  0 comments

Twisted Ovaries Fight The Power

Crossposted and Linked back to our Thread, wooohooo for internet circles

ALERT!!! One of Feminisim’s Pieces of Dirty Laundry Aired

Either my brain is exploding or twisty really is taking on the shiznit right now. Never mind I just had lots of 2 buck chuck with my mommah friend and spilled lots of beans so to speak. I’ve got to get back to reading twisty, but before then I’d like to send a shout out to Daisy who was cited in Salon today

I really, really would like feministe and feministing to do a piece on this! I also want to know what bluemilk and bianca bean and Daisy (linked above) think of Twisty’s post

READ I BLAME THE PATRIARCY ———-I am!

oh and btw Happy Holidays!

More on Twisty’s Post

Terms that need defining IMO

Nuclear Motherhood

Comment’s I agree with: (in no particular order)

Silence:
It’s a lose-lose situation no matter which way you play it. The patriarchy has it set up so that we cannot make the right choice. I think, bottom line, that’s Twisty’s point, though of course she’ll correct me if I’m mistaken.No right choice. If you’re female in this life, you receive an automatic ‘F,’ so there’s no use squabbling over who got the ‘F-’ as opposed to the ‘F ‘ or any such crap like that. Especially once you realize that the patriarchy’s the one handing out the grades.

We need a new scoring system.

Civiliberties:
Most child-rearing in traditional cultures around the world relies on an extended family living situation. Some are even matrilineal, though of course those are the ones under the most pressure to change from the dominant culture. I recently saw a documentary about matrilineal people in central asia who live from birth to death in the households of their mothers. Only women, (starting from the age of 13, when they are considered adults) have private bedrooms in the family home. Women initiate sexual contact & their lovers visit over night. The primary parenting roles are filled by the biological mother and her brothers, with the various biological fathers of the children playing peripheral roles.

In Venezuela, stay at home moms earn social security because the value of their work is included in calculations of GDP/GNP. One of the western world’s favorite subsidiary of the patriarchy, capitalism, depends on the unpaid labor of women in the home for its existence. If that work were included in the actual economy as wages the whole lousy setup would fall apart. Not that it’s not falling apart anyway.

Helen:
It’s the assumption that a working person has a wife at home that is the problem, and it’s the patriarchal view of domestic work that is the weak link.

Cara:
Some choose to have kids, some don’t, some never had a choice–so fuck the patriarchy and its aim to keep women divided against each other.If anyone wants to judge me for my *selfishness* in becoming a parent, well, tough shit. They’ll have to get over it or die pissed off. I’m not judging anyone for NOT wanting kids.

34 days ago  0 comments

email FWD: White Privilege

White privilege is when you can get pregnant at seventeen like Bristol Palin and everyone is quick to insist that your life and that of your family is a personal matter, and that no one has a right to judge you, or your parents, because "every family has challenges," even as blackand Latino families with similar "challenges" are regularly typified as irresponsible, pathological and arbiters of social decay.

White privilege is when you can call yourself a "fuckin' redneck,"
like Bristol Palin's boyfriend does, who likes to "kick ass" if people
mess with you, and who likes to "shoot shit," for fun, and still be
viewed as a responsible, all-American boy (and a great son-in-law to be) rather than a thug.

White privilege is when you can attend four different colleges in six
years like Sarah Palin did (one of which you basically failed out of,
then returned to after making up some coursework at a community
college), and no one questions your intelligence or commitment to
achievement, whereas a person of color who did this would be viewed as unfit for college, and probably someone who only got in in the first place because of affirmative action.

White privilege is when you can claim that being mayor of a town
smaller than most medium-sized colleges, and then Governor of a state with about the same number of people as the lower fifth of the island of Manhattan makes you ready to potentially be president, and people don't all piss on themselves with laughter, while being a black U.S. Senator, two-term state Senator, and constitutional law scholar, means you're "untested."

White privilege is being able to say that you support the words "under God" in the pledge of allegiance because "if it was good enough or the founding fathers, it's good enough for me," and not be immediately disqualified from holding office–since, after all, the pledge was written in the late 1800s and the "under God" part wasn't added until the 1950s–--while believing that reading accused criminals and terrorists their rights (because, ya know, the constitution, which you used to teach at a prestigious law school) requires it, is a dangerous and silly idea only supported by mushy liberals.

White privilege is being able to be a gun enthusiast and not make
people immediately scared of you.

White privilege is being able to have a husband who was a member of an extremist political party that wanted your state to secede from the union, and whose motto was " Alaska first," and no one questions your patriotism or that of your family, while if you're black and your spouse merely fails to come to a 9/11 memorial so she can be home with her kids on the first day of school, people immediately think she's being disrespectful.

White privilege is being able to make fun of community organizers and the work they do–like, among other things, fight for the right of
women to vote, or for civil rights, or the 8-hour workday, or an end
to child labor–and people think you're being pithy and tough, but if
you merely question the experience of a small town mayor and 18-month governor with no foreign policy expertise beyond a class she took in college–you're somehow being mean, or even sexist.

White privilege is being able to convince white women who don't even agree with you on any substantive issue to vote for you and your running mate anyway, because all of a sudden your presence on the ticket has inspired confidence in these same white women, and made them give your party a "second look."

White privilege is being able to fire people who didn't support your
political campaigns and not be accused of abusing your power or being a typical politician who engages in favoritism, while being black and merely knowing some folks from the old-line political machines in Chicago means you must be corrupt.

White privilege is being able to attend churches over the years whose pastors say that people who voted for John Kerry or merely criticize George W. Bush are going to hell, and that the U.S. is an explicitly Christian nation and the job of Christians is to bring Christian theological principles into government, and who bring in speakers who say the conflict in the Middle East is God's punishment on Jews for rejecting Jesus, and everyone can still think you're just a good church-going Christian, but if you're black and friends with a black pastor who has noted (as have Colin Powell and the U.S. Department of Defense) that terrorist attacks are often the result of U.S. foreign policy and who talks about the history of racism and its effect on black people, you're an extremist who probably hates America .

White privilege is not knowing what the Bush Doctrine is when asked by a reporter, and then people get angry at the reporter for asking you such a "trick question," while being black and merely refusing to give one-word answers to the queries of Bill O'Reilly means you're dodging the question, or trying to seem overly intellectual and nuanced.

White privilege is being able to claim your experience as a POW has
anything at all to do with your fitness for president, while being
black and experiencing racism is, as Sarah Palin has referred to it a
"light" burden.

And finally, white privilege is the only thing that could possible
allow someone to become president when he has voted with George W. Bush 90 percent of the time, even as unemployment is skyrocketing, people are losing their homes, inflation is rising, and the U.S. is increasingly isolated from world opinion, just because white voters aren't sure about that whole "change" thing. Ya know, it's just too vague and ill-defined, unlike, say, four more years of the same, which is very concrete and certain…

White privilege is…the problem.


----any thoughts?