mamawho posted an essay:

Really, I've not run off and joined the circus.

One week ago today I received the call that my grandmother would not live through the day. I raced up to Oklahoma from Texas to see her, hoping to see her alive. She was still fairly coherent when I arrived, but the prognosis was still dire. She lingered until yesterday at 5pm. She had no nutrition and no medical interventions other than basic comfort measures for seven days. No food, no water - she refused any administration of IV nutrition and would not take any by mouth. Have I mentioned before that my grandmother is a bit stubborn? Yes, this is the grandma that was convinced her fish were kidnapped, and that tickling a baby would make them stutter. She is also the woman who raised me, and a woman to whom my child is very close. I haven't told my daughter yet. She is with her dad's parents - I don't think I'll have her come to the funeral. I'm not sure. She is going to be absolutely devastated. The funeral is Monday. After that, I imagine I'll sort a few things out here and head home for a bit. I'm supposed to be packing to move right now. It will get done eventually.

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mamawho (34 days ago)

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Bol (34 days ago)

Mamawho, I'm so sorry. Been wondering where you were - i'm sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say. :(

If it was me, i'd probably take girlwho along, she's a fairly precocious child, and she might understand it all beautifully and it might help her come to terms with it all. Even though she's a bit young... er... but really it's a pretty tough call, i haven't had to make that decision before, so i don't really know what i'd actually do on the day...

Strength, love and peace to you all, in however you decide to handle it. And again, i'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was one awesome woman.

ks (34 days ago)

I'm so sorry.

CJRW (34 days ago)

I'm sorry for your loss. Keep us posted, and take a big virtual hug from your OS gang.

piebrothersmomma (34 days ago)

I was wondering about you. I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother's passing.

You know girlwho best so I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one.

Much love and big hugs to you and your family.

Mama to tha Max (34 days ago)

Oh Mamawho I'm so sorry for your loss.

How old is Girlwho? My great grandfather when I was 8. We would visit him everyother weekend and I really liked that. I wish that I could have gone to the funeral to say goodbye.

DaddyGeekBoy (34 days ago)

So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family. Hang in there.

Ylimemagic (34 days ago)

Mamawho, I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts. Let us know how you are.

kathy (34 days ago)

Oh, I've been wondering where you are. I'm so sorry this is why you've been absent. But I'm also glad for you that you got to spend time with her before she went. Many good wishes headed your way.

GG (34 days ago)

Same here - condolences and warm/good vibes to you and your family. Glad you were ablt to see her again.
I hope Girlwho is ok too.

Take care.

GG (34 days ago)

PS if you do join the circus give me a ring. I'll come too! :)

mightyninjamom (34 days ago)

mamawho - I was so tempted to call you to see how you were doing! I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. If she raised you she must have been a very special lady. Take care, and we'll be here if you need to talk!

Leighbie (34 days ago)

Umm - I'm late but I'm sorry for your loss. (((((hugs)))))

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mamawho

I'm not quite sure how DaddyWho and I ended up doing the fairly normal parenting thing, but it seems to suit us. GirlWho was born in August of 2002. When I'm not kid-wrangling, henpecking, or dog-chasing, I'm trying to finish the last semester of my undergrad in English. The latter is becoming increasingly difficult as the former sometimes strips me of the ability to form complete sentences.